Asking someone to marry you is a pretty big deal, so it's completely normal to feel nervous before popping the question. Unfortunately, when you're trying to keep the proposal a secret the nerves you're feeling might just give the surprise away. That's why it's important to do what you can to avoid sweating, stuttering, shaking, and potentially derailing the experience. To help you make sure your proposal is memorable for all the right reasons, we asked three experts to weigh in on how to calm your nerves before you get down on one knee.
Do Your Research
No matter what kind of proposal you have in mind, it's incredibly important to plan ahead and select a date to pop the question. "Over the last ten years, we have come to realize that our clients are most nervous if something doesn't go as planned," Megan Ellis from The Yes Girls shares. "To avoid last-minute worries, make sure to check out your proposal location beforehand." Ellis also recommends doing your due diligence to find out whether or not you'll need a permit early on, what the weather will be like, and whether the location you choose will be hosting an event the day you plan to propose.
Have a Backup Plan
If you're worried about coming up with the right words or stuttering, Pailin Thipayarat of Lynx Marriage Proposal suggests having the words "Will You Marry Me?" written on a banner, a dessert plate, on your pet's collar, or somewhere else. "Not only is it creative and looks good in photos, but if you go blank, you can just look into her eyes, show her the written message and, of course, the ring!"
Consider relying on a professional proposal planner to make sure you're the day goes off without a hitch. "You should hire a proposal planner to handle the preparations and help you make sure that everything will run smoothly on the actual day," recommends Thipayarat. "If it is a destination proposal, you should hire a local proposal planner because they know their area best." If you're incorporating professional musicians or photographers, Michele Velazquez, owner of The Heart Bandits, recommends hiring the best of the best. "That way, you can trust them to do their job on your proposal day and you can focus on your moment."
Focus on the Big Picture
In the end, it's important to remember why you're proposing. Velazquez says, "Instead of focusing on your nerves, try focusing on how excited your soon-to-be fiancé will be. Just knowing that you're going to be the cause of their happiness should be enough to turn those nerves into happy anticipation." Keep in mind that you're about to spend the rest of your life with this person, so they'll understand if things don't go according to plan, and no matter what, they'll have a great story to tell!