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Is It Normal to Have Nightmares About Something Going Wrong on Your Wedding Day?

And other musings of the modern bride.

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In today's culture, it's not uncommon to face multiple anxieties while planning your wedding day. Will everything run smoothly and on time? Will people enjoy your wedding or will they find it pretty average? Will you get to the ceremony on time? How these concerns bubble to the surface vary from person to person, but here are a few common worries couples have in relation to their wedding.

 

Related: The Truth About Pre-Wedding Stress

 

Is it normal to have a nightmare about something going wrong at your wedding?

Yes! Both wedding planners and couples experience nightmares about everything from rentals not showing up to bad weather rolling in without a backup plan. Wedding planner Tzo Ai Ang of Ang Weddings says, "One of my brides just told me last week that she had a dream she arrived so late at the venue to start getting ready at 5 p.m.! It might have been because we just finalized her timeline where she's arriving early in the morning for hair and makeup with her bridal party and the timing of the day was on her mind. She's very organized and always on time, so this would never happen!" Wedding anxiety is very common and these bad dreams are often a reminder that weddings have a lot of moving parts that your brain is working through processing.

 

Is it normal to have really different ideas from your partner about how your wedding should be?

Many couples head into wedding planning blindly without having previously discussed what their ideal wedding style, budget, and day would be like. As such, it's easy to feel like you're on totally different pages once you start diving into the details. A big part of the planning process is determining how to reconcile two completely different visions into something that's not only cohesive and enjoyable for your guests, but that also takes elements of what each of you love and represents who you are not just as individuals, but also as a couple.

 

Should I be worried about the speeches people will make at our wedding?

The vast majority of wedding speeches are very tame, with the speakers on their best behavior. If you're really worried, you might want to consider splitting up your speeches over multiple wedding events. So, you could have more of an open-mic style rehearsal dinner with only your closest friends and family in attendance, then focus on only a couple of people you really trust to give toasts at the wedding reception. Also, don't feel pressured to have a lot of speeches. You can easily get away with just one or two on your wedding day and leave all additional commentary for guests to write on cards and private notes to you.