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Five Points to Consider When Choosing a Flower Girl for Your Wedding

Keep these factors in mind as you select a young attendant.

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There are few wedding moments quite as precious as when the flower girl and ring bearer walk down the aisle at the start of the ceremony. Whether it's a single flower girl, a group of girls, or a combination of girls and boys walking together, seeing the young attendants make their entrance is something every guest loves to watch. That's why it's important to give some careful thought to who you'll choose as your flower girls. From the best ages for the job to the importance of the flower girl's parents' involvement, we're running through a few things you'll want to keep in mind before asking someone to be your littlest attendant.

 

Related: Tips for Helping Your Flower Girl and Ring Bearer Feel Comfortable During the Ceremony

 

Age Matters

Little ones from age five to eight are largely considered the best candidates for flower girl duties, as kids in this age range can understand their responsibilities and feel excited about the fancy dresses they'll don for the celebration. That's not to say that a younger attendant won't work, though. Girls in the three to five age bracket are equally precious, though they may require a little extra guidance to get down the aisle. If you have a loved one that's in the three and under crowd, know that they can be an adorable flower girl, too, but that they'll likely need the help of an older flower girl or bridesmaids to fulfill their duties.

 

Personality Plays an Important Role

When selecting your flower girl (or girls), personality should play a big part in your decision-making process. Not all flower girls have to exude confidence, but it's important that they'll be comfortable walking alone in front of a group of adults. As well, their ability to follow directions or follow a group is an important trait to consider.

 

Think Girl Power

You might consider choosing a gaggle of girls to make up your flower girl party rather than sending a solo flower girl down the aisle. If there's a range of ages, the girls tend to look after one another and encourage each other to complete the task at hand. This works really well if you have, say, a couple of six- to eight-year-old girls walking down the aisle with a toddler.

 

Family Politics

If you're fortunate to have many flower girl options, it's often best to err on the side of caution with regard to family politics. Many couples choose to have multiple flower girls in this case, so as to avoid hurt feelings for both the little girls and their parents.

 

Parental Involvement

Nine times out of ten, couples choose the daughter of a dear friend or close relative to act as their flower girl. One of many reasons to go this route is that you'll want to be in close communication with the flower girl's parents throughout the planning process so you can coordinate attire, travel, photos, and the ceremony rehearsal. If you go with a child whose parents are a bit flighty or hard to get a hold of, it could add a layer of unnecessary stress to your (already full) plate.