10 Ways You're Expecting Too Much from Your Wedding Guests
And what you can do to be a better host.
From traveling way too far for a destination wedding to creating a registry that's filled only with high-end gifts, there are countless ways you might be expecting too much from your wedding guests. Here are 10 things you can easily avoid so your guests not only have a great time at your wedding, but actually feel like attending your big day is possible.
Only registering at one high-end store.
Giving guests two to three registry options is the best way to cater to their varying budgets and tastes. If there really, truly is only one store you think is worth registering with, be sure to include options in all price ranges. Alternatively, you might consider asking guests to make a donation to a charity you support or pitching in whatever they feel comfortable with for your honeymoon.
Not giving ample notice of your wedding.
The typical window for sending out wedding invitation is six to ten weeks prior. Sending a save-the-date well before then is key to ensuring your guests have enough time set aside in their calendars for your wedding.
Traveling too far for a destination wedding.
Destination weddings are a huge trend, and that's (at least in part) because they are a wonderful way for the bride and groom to spend quality time with their guests. If the travel you're envisioning requires guests to get a special type of visa, take a 14-hour flight, and hop aboard a train to a taxi to the venue, you're probably expecting too much.
Planning too many activities for the wedding weekend.
Couples planning destination weddings tend to fill the weekend's agenda with multiple gatherings. While it's great to host more than one event if you can, it's also important to give guests time to relax and enjoy the destination where you're getting married.
Not providing transportation to an off-the-grid location.
If your wedding venue is deep in the hills or way out in the countryside, it might be difficult for your guests to find and even harder to get a ride to. Providing shuttles to and from a designated location nearby or the local hotel is usually the best solution.
Partying too late into the night.
Rather than keep the older folks and family members awake and at your wedding venue until midnight or later, wrap things up at the venue by ten or eleven o'clock and head to a local bar or lounge to continue the party with your closest friends.
Asking guests to bring anything to your wedding.
Even if it's something as simple as a photo to add to your guest book, asking guests to bring anything to your wedding is simply too much. They've got enough coordinating to do without remembering that one "little" thing.
Not assigning ceremony seating.
You don't have to assign all the seats at your ceremony, but you can't expect guests to know which seats to keep clear for your parents and grandparents. If possible, go ahead and label these seats with place cards to avoid the confusion.
Traveling to too many venues.
It's common to have a ceremony and reception in two different places, but that's about where the traveling should end. Bouncing from a ceremony location to another place for cocktails and dinner followed by another venue for dancing is expecting too much and you'll end up losing guests along the way.
Having a self-serve bar.
Having a satellite nightcap bar at the end of the night can be really fun, and this is something that can easily operate as a self-serve station, but your main bar should have staff who can ensure that the mixed drinks are of an appropriate pour and that glasses are clean. Expecting your guests to manage their own bar experience is too much when they should be busy socializing and enjoying themselves.