Will the music be good? Will there be enough bourbon at the bar? Will the photos feel awkward? These are just a few of the questions a groom may be asking himself about the wedding plans. And yet, there's so much more that the pros wish they'd consider. From how to tie his own bow tie to knowing when to step in and help the bride, here are all the things wedding planners wish the groom knew.
You'll be blown away when you see her walking down the aisle.
Whether you do or don't see each before the ceremony, you're still going to be wowed by the sight of your bride-to-be walking towards you at the start of the ceremony. It's important to prepare for this emotional reality—while there's nothing wrong with shedding a few tears, sobbing uncontrollably into the microphone should probably be avoided.
When to step in and offer to help with wedding planning tasks.
Too many grooms wait until their partner is already stressed out to offer their assistance, which could easily be avoided with regular weekly check-ins and being a little more involved. Try to be involved from the very beginning and offer your support throughout the wedding planning process.
How to behave when a camera is on them.
There are very few grooms who have a career in modeling, and the majority of them are so uncomfortable in front of cameras it's almost painful to watch. However, a photo shoot prior to the wedding day can really help ease this discomfort, so be open to scheduling that engagement photo session when your fiancée asks.
How to tie a tie.
Without watching a video online, that is. Sure, your wedding planner, father, and future father-in-law are all there to help you tie your tie or bow tie today, but this is a life skill you want to commit to memory.
That you can't invite everyone.
Knowing where to cap the guest list is often a big challenge for the groom. While he may be tempted to invite every friend from every phase of his life, it's usually not feasible when it comes to budget and venue size restrictions.
That discussing finances doesn't have to be awkward.
Talking through budgets at the start of the planning can be really uncomfortable, especially with both of your sets of parents. Be sure to check in with your fiancée and make sure you're always on the same page and that you're both comfortable with what you're spending before signing any contracts.
The difference between a suit that does and doesn't fit you.
Getting his suit or tuxedo tailored properly should be a big priority, but a number of guys can't even tell the difference between attire that does or doesn't fit well. If you're not sure, ask a pro.
When to leave it up to the bride.
As much as we want the groom to get involved, it's equally as important to understand when the bride should be allowed to do her own thing and enjoy the process of planning a wedding. It's unlikely that the groom wants to have much say in the design, attire, and overall look of the day, so knowing when to step back and let her have fun is helpful for everyone.
How to give a proper, well-prepared, and gracious wedding toast.
Short, sweet, and to the point! The groom should be ready to say a few words during the reception, and it's even better when he writes out what he'll say ahead of time. In addition to thanking your family and friends, be sure to give a shout out to the vendors who worked tirelessly to bring your wedding to life.
That throwing in a few surprises for your bride is really romantic.
This could be something as simple as a gift and a thoughtful card for the bride on your wedding day, or something more involved like performing a song for the bride if he's a musician, but surprising her with something she hasn't had any part in planning will mean so much to your new wife.