When a bride asks a close female friend or family member to be in her wedding party, she expects excitement and support in the months leading up to wedding and especially on the big day itself. What she doesn't expect is for her loved one to turn into a bridesmaidzilla. So, if you're going to be a bridesmaid in an upcoming wedding, take note of the things not to do.
Say nasty things about the bride.
Picture yourself as the bride: On your wedding day, you want to look gorgeous and have everything run smoothly. Don't ruin things for her by whispering unkind comments about her dress or the cocktail hour hors d'oeuvres you didn't love. Be positive—it'll feel better!
Tell anyone within earshot how much you loathe your dress.
While the stereotypical "ugly bridesmaid dress" is pretty much a thing of the past, not every style flatters every figure. If that's the case with you, stop focusing on the dress and instead focus on how gorgeous your hair or makeup looks. Then, get out on the dance floor, forget your worries, and have fun! Complaining about your dress will only make the bride feel badly, and it's her day to enjoy herself.
Act like a diva.
That includes barking orders to the other bridesmaids around and being late to your hair or makeup appointment. At the wedding your main role is to support the bride, so drop the attitude and concentrate on making your friend or relative feel like the star of the show.
Who knows what could happen if you have a few too many glasses of bubbly? You could trip while walking down the aisle, blurt out something inappropriate, get sick in front of everyone—the list goes on and on. Be smart about how much alcohol you're having and make sure to eat.
Whine to your boyfriend, "When's it going to be my turn to be the bride?"
There's nothing wrong with wanting to be a bride, too, but it's highly doubtful that question will elicit a proposal. Have a good time together at your friend's wedding and plan on having a talk with your guy about your relationship at a later date, when you're both relaxed and not in a highly charged setting like a wedding reception.