6 Wedding-Planning Duties Your Groom Will Actually Want to Handle
Consider this your cheat sheet for getting your guy involved in the big-day prep.
There's a long list of responsibilities and a big time commitment that comes along with planning a wedding-enough to keep both partners busy throughout the engagement-but because most women want to have a little more say in the details, it's often the bride who ends up handling the majority of the wedding-planning tasks. "We often find that brides-even ones who haven't been dreaming about their wedding their whole life-have a stronger sense of what they want for their big day," says Flora Wu Ellis, founder and CEO of Unveil Events. "Some women even embrace being in control." Even if you're a self-proclaimed perfectionist, it's important to remember that your wedding is about the two of you, which is why your groom should handle some elements of wedding planning, too. The easiest way to get him involved? Ask him to handle tasks that he'll actually enjoy. Here, wedding planners share the duties that your groom will be thrilled (or at least willing) to take on.
Selecting the best man and groomsmen and their attire.
This one may seem obvious, but it's important to let your guy select the group that will stand by his side on the wedding day. He shouldn't stop there, though. Your groom should also decide what his attendants will wear, make sure that their looks coordinate with your bridesmaids, and purchase personalized big-day gifts for his group.
Collecting vendor information.
While you can learn a lot by reading online wedding vendor reviews, much of the information you'll need to know, such as pricing and availability, won't be listed. For this reason, you'll have to send emails or call the various businesses. Once you make a preliminary list of pros you want to talk to, ask your groom to handle outreach. "Just remember that the key to delegating vendor research is staying organized," adds Ellis. Consider an online wedding organizer that lets you easily collaborate and save your vendor information all in one place.
Compiling names and addresses for his parents' portion of the guest list.
Once the two of you have drafted your own guest list, you should consult both sets of parents to make sure you haven't left anyone off. Then, ask your husband-to-be to consult with his parents to make sure anyone they feel strongly about inviting has made the list. He can then compile addresses for their portion of the list (you should work with your own parents). No matter what you do, stay firm on the numbers. "You can each make a rough draft at first, but once you make a final draft, stick with that number-this helps with budgeting," suggests Deborah L. Erb, owner and event planner for Simply Events Inc.
Unless your entire wedding-from ceremony to reception-is in the very same location or within walking distance, it's smart to secure transportation for everyone. Luckily, most men have a thing for cars, so he may enjoy selecting a vintage ride for your exit and a cool trolley to transport guests. "Think about how many people will need the transportation. Will you need a small shuttle? Does the hotel provide shuttle service? Or, will you need to rent a coach bus?" says Erb. Let your groom handle the logistics, then have him communicate this to your attendees and vendors. "Make sure all guests have clear and concise information regarding pickup and drop off locations and times prior to the wedding day or upon arrival at the hotel," the pro adds.
Bar selections and the after-party.
If your fiancé prides himself on his knowledge of beers and whiskey, let him work with your caterer to select your bar's offerings. "Grooms can work with their caterers to conspire on signature cocktails, specialty bars, and to choose the wine and beer they like," says Erb. The same goes for the after party. "From finding a bar, ordering late-night pizzas, and making sure guests know where the party is, grooms can completely own the after-party experience."
Although many couples choose to plan their honeymoon together, this task traditionally belonged to the groom. "From choosing the location to booking flights, hotels, and potentially even your meals and activities, planning travel is something he'll likely be interested in and have experience doing as well," says Ellis. If he's not sure he can handle all the planning on his own, consider enlisting the help of a travel agent.