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What to Do When You Really Don't Want to Have a Bachelorette Party

This pre-wedding party isn't for everyone, and there's no rule that says you have to have one if you're not into it.

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While there are plenty of brides who absolutely love being the center of attention, there are others who simply don't. That's why having a bachelorette party really isn't for everyone. Maybe you don't want to deal with coordinating a group of women who live all over the map, or maybe spending the time, money, and effort just isn't in the cards right now. Whatever your reasoning, it's okay to skip this tradition if you want to. Here are a few options you have in relation to skipping the bachelorette bash.

 

Related: An Introvert's Guide to Surviving Her Bachelorette Party

 

Bring Your Friends Into the Fold

If you have a bridal party selected, you'll want to let them know your genuine desire to skip the bachelorette party as soon as possible. If they're excited about these types of events, they may start planning these festivities almost immediately after being asked to be a bridesmaid, and you don't want them to get too far in the process before you intervene. Even if you've decided to skip having a bridal party, your friends may still need to be brought into the fold about your decision not to have a bachelorette party.

 

Find Another Way to Celebrate

You're likely to get some pushback from friends who were looking forward to celebrating with you, so it might be fun to come up with an alternative you're more comfortable with. Maybe it's something as simple as spending quality one-on-one time with your friends, or setting up a dinner party at home. You don't have to make a whole weekend out of it, but simply taking the time out to let your girlfriends congratulate you could be both fun and relaxing.

 

When Distance Is the Issue

If all your friends live far away and organizing a bachelorette party seems an impossible feat, you might consider asking your dearest friends if they'd arrive a couple of days prior to your wedding so you can share one celebratory night together. It doesn't have to be labeled a bachelorette party, but a girls' night prior to the wedding is a great way to kick off the festivities with those you're closest with.

 

Join Forces

If the main reason you don't want a bachelorette party is that you can't stand the idea of being the center of attention, you might consider joining forces with a few other girlfriends who are currently engaged. Especially if you have friends in common, this is a great way to have a bachelorette party without feeling like you're putting people out. Alternatively, you could join forces with your fiancé and host a joint bachelor and bachelorette celebration. This style of celebrating often takes some of the pressure out of the equation.

 

Let Yourself Off the Hook

There are plenty of reasons why you may feel guilty about not having a bachelorette party, but it's important to keep these feelings in check and let yourself off the hook for your own well-being. While you may have one or two friends who think it's okay to guilt you into having a pre-nuptial celebration, this decision is ultimately your own and it's one you can be proud of yourself for making.