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How to Help a Shy Bridesmaid Feel More Comfortable at All of Your Wedding-Related Events

Introverted 'maids may feel uncomfortable during the bachelorette party, bridal shower, and wedding. Here's how you can help.

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Being a member of a wedding party involves plenty of fun experiences: dress shopping, the bridal shower, the bachelorette party, and getting ready in the bridal suite. Extroverted girls will love these festivities—in fact, most look forward to all of the pre- and post-wedding events they get to take part in. Introverts, on the other hand, may dread these social interactions. There's no reason why a shy bridesmaid should have to miss out on the fun, though! Here are four tips for helping the quiet personalities in your wedding party feel more comfortable at your wedding-related events, ensuring everyone has an unforgettable experience leading up to the big day.

 

Related: Every Type of Bridesmaid You Need

 

Have a Heart-to-Heart Conversation

Introverts have naturally reserved personalities. They're typically more comfortable with one-on-one conversations than large social gatherings, which makes bridal party activities particularly draining. Knowing this information, it's a good idea to have a heart-to-heart conversation with your shy bridesmaid early in the planning process. How would they like to contribute to the wedding? What activities and interactions do they feel comfortable with? This insight makes delegating tasks and scheduling an itinerary easier for everyone involved.

 

Introduce the Bridesmaids

Walking into a room full of strangers is an introvert's worst nightmare, since many shy people dread starting conversations. Prevent any feelings of uneasiness by introducing all members of your bridal party as soon as possible, whether virtually (via text or Facebook group) or in person. With formalities out of the way, your shy friend will be much more likely to engage in conversations, allowing her to feel like a valuable member of the group.

 

Delegate Enjoyable Tasks

From crafting decorations to booking a bachelorette party venue, bridesmaids likely have a long list of to-dos. Assign your shy bridesmaids with tasks she feels comfortable completing. Some may prefer solo duties (like designing the wedding menu), while others may be willing to step out of their comfort zone with a group activity (like helping to organize bridal shower games).

 

Take Charge of Uncomfortable Situations

Is your shy friend looking uncomfortable while dress shopping? Is she sitting quietly during the bridal shower? Don't be afraid to step in! Ask her privately if she's feeling alright, and offer ways to remedy the situation. Maybe she needs a few moments alone to recharge—if that's the case, you should let her relax with zero guilt. She might also need help connecting with the other women No matter the issue, she'll be grateful you took the time to consider her feelings.