After months spent planning your wedding, you're probably looking forward to your bachelorette party, in which you'll get the chance to spend a day (or a few days!) celebrating your upcoming marriage with your closest female family members and friends. As you work with your maid of honor and bridesmaids to plan the party or getaway, you'll probably have a few questions. One big one? Whether or not it's okay for you to set a dress code for part or all of the celebration. We spoke with Emilie Duncan of Emilie Duncan Event Planning about whether a bride (or her MOH!) can dictate a bachelorette party dress code, or if it's seen as a bridezilla move.
Pick Your Battles
The bachelorette party is all about you, so you don't need to feel too bad about making these kinds of decisions. With that being said, you still don't want to go overboard. "I think whether a bride can and/or should try to control the dress code for her bachelorette party truly comes down to the bride and her group of friends," says Duncan. "Regardless of how much fun you think it is, you might elicit a few eye rolls, so pick your battles." When it comes to the dress code, a good rule is if you wouldn't wear it for one of them, don't expect them to wear it for you. Set on matching attire? It's considerate to set a dress code that your loved ones can follow without having to purchase something new.
Think About What's Planned Already
Before you can even think about a dress code, you should figure out what's happening during the bachelorette party, then choose something that's appropriate for what you'll be doing. "I think controlling the dress code also depends on the activities planned," says Duncan. "Matching t-shirts and a bunch of sashes that say something like, 'Bride's Tribe!" would obviously be less appropriate for a relaxing spa day or a wine tasting than a night out in a city."
Spread the Word Early
If you decide that you'd like your group to wear coordinating or matching attire, make sure to spread the word early. You'll want to give everyone time to choose and pack an outfit that works—no one wants to be the only person not matching the rest of the group because they didn't have enough time to get what they needed. Anything you or your maid of honor can provide—custom shirts or small accessories like sunglasses, hats, or sashes—will make planning easier on your family and friends.