You hired your wedding vendors because you loved their past work and because you connected with them on a personal level, but if you want them to bring their all to your ceremony and reception, there are a few things you should know. First and foremost, the secret to getting your big-day pros to do their best work for your wedding is to treat this relationship the way you'd treat any other relationship of value: with respect and integrity. Trust, communication, and honesty are essential elements of any great partnership, and this includes the one you're building with your wedding vendors.
If you want the professionals you've hired to have the opportunity to do their best work ever, remember these three points.
Trust is key.
There's no greater way to empower your wedding team than by trusting them to do their job and to do it well. Wedding planner Elizabeth Lewis of The Nouveau Romantics suggests, "Find people you implicitly trust, and let them do their thing. When the clients trust the professionals, it allows us to over-deliver, and make you beyond happy. We want to delight, surprise, and wow you."
Practice good communication.
As you've likely learned in your relationship with your soon-to-be spouse, good communication fuels positive interactions and outcomes. It's inevitable that you'll face some hiccups and surprises while planning your wedding, some of which may be the result of miscommunication or a lack of organization within your wedding vendor's systems. It's important to talk through these issues as they arise so you don't allow small mistakes to ruin your working relationship.
Don't be an overachiever.
It's important to be realistic about what you're willing to take on from the start. Task management is something a wedding planner can be helpful with, but it's important that you're clear from the start how much you can manage outside of your own job and personal life. For instance, planning a wedding on a private estate that requires you to bring in tents, a catering kitchen, restrooms, generators, and more is a huge task to tackle without someone who knows the ropes. On the other hand, if you know you're short on free time to plan a wedding, opting to host your wedding at a venue that includes everything will be much less consuming.