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Here's What You Need to Know About Choosing Your Engagement Ring Together

Buying a ring can be a team effort, but there are some factors to consider first.

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There are many compelling reasons why the bride-to-be might want to accompany her guy as he shops for the engagement ring. Maybe you two do everything together, so why not do this as a team, too? Or you don't trust he completely gets your very particular taste in jewelry. Or—admit it—you like to be in control of important events and buying an engagement ring is one of them. Whatever reason that "engagement-ring shopping" ends up on your to-do list, before you hit the stores, make sure you fully understand the following points.

 

Related: How to Choose a Timeless Engagement Ring

 

You still should give him a preview of rings you like.

Yes, you'll be there, but you should still give him an idea of your taste, like whether it's modern or traditional, your preferred metal, diamond shape, and ring style. Show him your wedding Pinterest boards, if you've got them, or any rings you've saved on Instagram. The world of engagement rings is most likely new and scary for him, so ease him in gently.

 

You'll need to be open to his suggestions.

Even though you may know you want an emerald-shaped ring on a platinum band, do more than humor him if he spots another shape or metal that he wants you to look at. You shouldn't be the only one having fun! Also, if you only saw rings online, you'll have a different perspective when you go to a jeweler's in person. Try on many different rings before deciding.

 

Understand and respect the budget.

If you're aware of how much he can afford, it will steer you towards the rings in his price range. There's no sense looking at uber-expensive diamonds if he's on a much more limited budget. Even if you're contributing to the cost, stay within the price range you two agreed upon beforehand.

 

Make sure you're entirely okay with not being surprised.

Part of the excitement of getting engaged is seeing what the ring he chose just for you looks like. Maybe you don't like surprises when jewelry—which you'll wear forever—is involved. If he's okay with that too, go for it. If you want an element of surprise, shopping together might not be right for you.