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Why It's So Important to Learn How to Let Things Go While Planning Your Wedding

Not everything will work out the way you planned, and that's okay.

Contributing Writer
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Take a deep breath for a moment and try to not think about the spreadsheets, the to-do lists, the guests who haven't RSVP'd yet, or any of the many wedding-related decisions waiting on your input. It's hard, isn't it? When you're so deeply involved with every single detail that goes into planning a life event that's as major as your wedding day, it's difficult to separate yourself from it all—let alone acknowledge that there's a chance that any of these details that you've sent hours on could possibly manifest in any way other than exactly how they were planned.

 

But here's the truth: Despite your best intentions and your masterful organizing, weddings simply have too many moving pieces in play for you to be able to control every last detail. From unexpected snafus and miscommunications with vendors or venues to the weather and the personal lives of your bridal party, you have to realize that some things that are simply beyond your control, and that's okay. That's why it's so important for a bride to learn to be able to let things go.

 

Related: Signs Wedding Planning Is Making You Too Stressed Out

 

So, how can you get better at lettings things go? Start by focusing on the bigger picture, which is that you're marrying the love of your life and starting a new chapter together. When you take a step back and put things in that perspective, you'll realize that any little hiccups you encounter in the planning process or even on your wedding day don't really matter—and they're definitely not worth stressing over!

 

Likewise, wedding planning involves making many, many decisions—from the major ones, such as your wedding date and venue, to the tiniest details, like the style of calligraphy on your wedding invites. You'll have to make decisions about everything at some point, and odds are that you'll have to compromise eventually. Rather than dwelling on the negative, ask yourself how much this really matters. If it's something that's really important to you, get creative and try to figure out a way to make it work, otherwise don't sweat the small stuff.

 

If you can't get a specific venue on a specific weekend, would you be open to other weekends, or other venues? If your floral budget doesn't stretch quite as far as you'd imagined, ask your florist for some ideas for tabletop arrangements that will maximize your budget. You might be surprised with what they come up with Trust that everything works out for a reason, and your wedding day will be all the more special for it.