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Is a First Look Right for You? Consider These Pros and Cons

This pre-wedding peek at each other is a tempting tradition.

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Seeing each other briefly before you walk down the aisle can feel magical—you're about to take a huge step into the future with the one you love. While many couples are all for a pre-ceremony first look, others decline, citing the tradition of the bride and groom not seeing each other until the wedding officially begins. On the fence about what to do? Consider these pros and cons to decide which is right for you.

 

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Pro: Your photographer can take portraits early.

One of the major perks of having a first look is that your photographer can take photos of the two of you before the ceremony, freeing up time after so that you can straight to cocktail hour. Plus, there's a special energy and excitement that a bride and groom have right before the ceremony, and you'll want to remember how you felt in that moment for the rest of your lives. 

 

Con: It may steal some of the thunder of walking down the aisle.

While your guests will be oohing and aahing as you enter the ceremony venue, the moment might be anticlimactic for you and the groom since you've already seen each other. Even so, most couples who have a first look agree that the entrance is still exciting.

 

Pro: A first look gives you a few precious moments together.

Your wedding day will be busy, chaotic, and over much too quickly. A first look gives both of you an opportunity to take a deep breath and spend a little time alone before the happy wedding madness begins.

 

Con: You might need to fix your makeup after shedding a few happy tears.

If seeing your fiancé dressed as the groom will have you ready to unleash the waterworks, you'll want to account for makeup touch ups after the first look. Leave some extra room in your schedule just in case.