Planning a second wedding may follow many of the same steps as your first, but there are a few important points of difference. From making the announcement to planning the guest list and selecting a wedding party, there are considerations to be made for a second wedding regardless of how the first marriage ended. Here, we spoke with Alicia Fritz, wedding planner and owner of A Day in May Events, about the notable differences.
The wedding announcement should be tactical.
Announcing your second marriage isn't quite the same as your first. You'll want to prioritize telling your children and your parents prior to letting anyone else in on the plan. As for social media announcements, there may be some confusion for people you're not regularly in touch with, so you may opt to hold off on sharing the news here unless you're ready to have those conversations.
The guest list may have some crossover.
When it comes to planning the guest list for a second wedding, focus on sharing the celebration with the people you're sharing this phase of life with, Fritz says. "Don't feel that everyone you invited to your first wedding needs to be invited to your second wedding, even if they're still your friends," she explains. If they don't know you and your future spouse well, it's okay to leave them off the guest list.
Second weddings tend to be more intimate occasions.
While it's not an etiquette requirement to have a smaller wedding for your second marriage, Fritz notes that it's common for second weddings to happen a little later life and reflect a more intimate atmosphere.
You can still have a wedding party.
There's no etiquette rule that says you can't have a bridal party for your second wedding, so go ahead and include your friends to walk down the aisle if you'd like. "With almost every second marriage we've planned, our couples' wedding parties have been small and focused on their family or close, close friends," Fritz says, but feel free to include whomever you feel comfortable standing beside.
The process is the same as your first wedding, but the wedding can be very different.
Second weddings may be smaller, but a later in life event often means the couple has more to spend on a celebration that feels more customized and personal. Fritz says that older couples like to celebrate their personal successes and host weddings that reflect that, and often second weddings are taking place during a time when partners feel more secure and established.
Remember, it's your first time planning a wedding together.
Though one or both partners have been previously married, it's important to remember that while this may not be your first time planning a wedding, it's your first time doing so together, Fritz says. She advises, "Remember to be sensitive to the excitement and emotions of wedding planning." Enjoy this time as a couple, as it's the only time the two of you will plan your wedding together.