Having the groomsmen's boutonnières mirror the bridesmaids' bouquets is a choice, not a rule. And even if it were a "rule," it would be your right to break it! If you want your bridal party to be in sync with one another, that'll look classically beautiful and symmetrical. But if you prefer a coordinated look that isn't an identical match, here are some ways to make that happen below. (And in case you were wondering, there's no need for a bride and groom to match anyone else in the bridal party. You two are the stars so everything about you should stand out, even your flowers!)
Stick to the same color family.
Take pink, for example. Think of all the gorgeous shades available to you. In order to make sure everyone feels comfortable, avoid giving the guys any tone that's too feminine. The bridesmaids could carry a combination of blush pink and bright pink, while the groomsmen rock more muted flowers in the salmon range.
Choose the same flower.
The variations of roses, for example, are just about limitless. Let the girls carry ivory and yellow garden roses and the guys wear lavender spray roses. If you want to follow a sweet tradition, let the groom wear a flower that's also in your bouquet.
Mix up the flowers and colors.
This not only distinguishes the guys from the girls, but also helps each of the groomsmen stand out. Have the groom wear white stephanotis, all the groomsmen wear mini calla lilies, and the ushers and ring bearer wear green larkspur. None of the flowers are showy but all are boutonnière-worthy.
Let the groomsmen wear succulents or greens.
None of the guys have to even wear flowers—not when there's hearty succulents and vibrant greens as other options. The bridesmaids can also carry succulents or greens of different varieties so the guys and girls' looks have something in common.