If you've been waiting with baited breath for your partner to get down on one knee, you're probably tuned into his or her every single move. Will it be this weekend? This month? This year? The anxiety can feel unbearable, especially if the two of you haven't agreed on a specific timeline for when the magic will happen. Now that it's the summer, with the beautiful, warm weather and fun vacations planned, you're probably wondering if there's a chance that it could happen. To help you determine whether or not this summer will be engagement season for you, we asked top relationship experts to share telltale signs he's going to pop the question.
He keeps talking about your future.
If your boyfriend knows that the two of you are going to get engaged, he might let it slip in subtle ways—one of those being potential plans for the future. "Keep an ear out for questions about where you want to move, discussions of renovating your home, joining your finances, or planning big trips together," says Dr. Jane Greer, a New York-based relationship expert and author of What About Me? Stop Selfishness from Ruining Your Relationship. "If there's more conversation about your future together, involving plans at least six months-to-a-year away, chances are he is planning to propose."
He asks questions about your proposal preferences.
He might inquire about the type of diamond you're hoping to wear, your ring size, or where you'd like to get engaged "someday." In other words, he or she might try to feel out what kind of proposal you have in mind. "Do you expect something elaborate? Do you want photos taken? Do you want anyone present?" asks Dr. Greer. "Of course, your partner will ask less if he or she is trying to surprise you, but you can watch out for questions related to events that might have something to do with the big proposal."
He's being extra nice to your parents.
You'd hope that your significant other is always kind to your parents, but if you notice him or her warming up to them in more ways than ever before, it might be to gain their approval for the big proposal. "Most partners know that having future in-laws buy into the relationship matters," says Gail Saltz, M.D., psychiatrist and associate professor of psychiatry at The New York Presbyterian Hospital Weill-Cornell School of Medicine. "If you notice he or she is being more attentive and nice than usual, it's likely in a bid to win their favor."
He's devising a romantic summer plan.
If he is up for and involved in a romantic summer plan, Dr. Saltz surmises that he may be planning his method of asking. "Whether it's a reservation at your favorite restaurant, a weekend getaway to a beautiful destination, or a day designated for just the two of you, it could signal that a proposal is around the corner."
He's more anxious than usual.
Getting engaged is a big deal—especially for the one who's under the pressure to pop the question. "It's a big decision that most people have anxiety over," says Dr. Saltz. "If you notice your partner's anxiety rise in general, even in other areas about other things, it may be because his overall anxiety is high as he's planning this big move."