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4 Ways to Involve the Groom's Sister in Wedding Planning

And score points with your future mother-in-law in the process.

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If you're lucky, your guy's sister is already one of your besties, and it's a given that she'll be front and center as a bridesmaid. But what if you barely know each other or have never met (it happens, especially if you and your significant other have had a fast and furious courtship that led to the engagement)? Whether you've known and loved her for years or are trying to pave the road to a healthy, happy relationship, including your future sister-in-law in the wedding is almost always a must. Luckily, asking her to be a 'maid isn't your only option. Here, we offer a few other ways to include in her in the big day.


Related: Creative Ways to Get to Know Your Future In-Laws


Ask her to be a bridesmaid.

If you already consider his sister a good friend or else feel comfortable asking her to stand by your side at the ceremony, go ahead and pop the question—the "Will you be my bridesmaid?" question, that is. If you two hardly know each other, it may feel like a stretch to have her walk down the aisle, but it's a nice gesture that shows you understand how important she is to your future. And it'll mean the world to your future mother-in-law and her brother. 


Ask her to help you with research.

These days, most people have advanced degrees from Google University, making them adept at tracking down whatever you need—venues, florists, bands, and the other 387 things associated with weddings. If you value her opinions and she understands what your big-day aesthetic is, ask her to help gather inspiration for the wedding. Just be specific about what you're looking for so that her research is actually helpful.


Ask her to perform a ceremony reading.

But don't just ask her to read piece of a scripture or a poem. Instead, ask her to suggest some that she thinks would be a fit for the wedding, or that she connects with. That'll put more importance on the job, and it'll also be one task you can cross off your list. Give her some guidance and a deadline and meet or talk on the phone to discuss her findings.


Ask her to make something.

If she's got graphic design skills, ask her to create any reception signage you need (offer to pay for the materials, though). If she's a proficient baker, see if she'll make a groom's cake or sweet treats for the getting-ready rooms (yours and the groom's). The point is to capitalize on her talent. She'll be flattered and it's an easy way for you two to get closer.