The Pros and Cons of Proposing on Valentine's Day

Is it the ultimate romantic gesture or just predictable?

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It's not hard to figure out why so many couples get engaged on Valentine's Day. With hearts everywhere and Cupid's bows shooting from every direction, February 14th may seem like the perfect day pop to the question. But is it a good idea or not? Here, we ponder the pros and cons of this romantic date in an effort to help you make the decision that's right for your relationship.

Pro: It's the most romantic day of the year.

You've always adored Valentine's Day, known the world over as a day of love and romance. For him to propose on such a meaningful day makes you love him even more.

Con: It's everyone else's day of love, too.

If he proposed on, say, April 3rd, you'd pretty much have the day-and the attention-all to yourself. But on February 14th, you're one of many celebrating an engagement or marriage.

Pro: He's going all out.

It's the stuff of dreams-an upscale eatery, a cozy table in the corner, candlelight, soft music, the most beautiful ring you've ever seen lolling about in a champagne glass, and him on one knee. If you love the idea of a big screen-inspired proposal, this is it.

Con: You may not be surprised when he drops to one knee.

There were hints. He insisted you get dressed up to go to dinner. He seems nervous. He's sweating. It's Valentine's Day. Hmmm, what could possibly happen later?

Pro: The groom doesn't have to worry about being super-creative.

It's trendy now for men to make the proposal into a big, imaginative, original production, and asking this big question on Valentine's Day may make your man feel pressured to compete with the craziness. On the other hand, he won't have to do much more to make the proposal really special-the theme is already built into the day.

Con: It's expensive.

Picking the day symbolized by hearts and Cupid isn't the most affordable. If he wants to take you out to dinner or give you a dozen red roses after you say yes, expect the prices to be especially high.

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