Ever wonder what your wedding planner is really thinking behind that game face? Wonder no more. We asked four professional planners— Lauren Knuepfer Rozum of LK Events, Holly Patton Olsen of Perfectly Posh Events, Jessica Masi of Masi Events, and Melissa McNeely of Events by Melissa McNeely—to dish on this one essential question: What's the one thing you wish you could tell an engaged couple? You might be surprised by their answers.
If you've done your homework and hired a reputable planner, your next assignment, says Rozum, is to let them to do their job. "We have your best interests at heart and we are here to help you through it all," she adds. "Allow us to guide you through this process." When a planner attacks a problem differently than you would have, it's generally because they've dealt with it before and have a foundation from which to solve it.
Let us create.
It can be hard for some couples to give up control, but it's important to remember why you decided to hire a wedding planner (and why these people became planners in the first place). "Wedding planners, designers, and photographers thrive when they're given the opportunity to help their couples create a unique celebration," says Masi. "Make sure to give each vendor you hire the flexibility to do their job and allow them to be creative."
Ease up on the vision boards.
"We all love Instagram and Pinterest but it can lead to inspiration overload!" insists Olsen. "When going through the design process with our couples, we make a conscious effort to infuse their personalities, interests, and style into their design. This is important in making sure their celebration is a true reflection of who both the bride and groom are." If you go crazy over your vision board and hang your hat on one design too early, you'll rule out all of the many other possibilities you didn't even know existed—ones an experienced planner can bring to the table if you don't have tunnel vision.
Remember that vendors are people, too.
"It's fine to negotiate prices in certain instances," says McNeely, "but stop at a certain point because having vendors who feel valued on the day of is worth much more than shaving a few hundred bucks." This golden rule is one that can also expand to encompass the general energy you exude to all who are participating in the big day.