Whether you're the romantic type who prefers to be wined and dined on Valentine's Day or prefer to spend the 14th on your couch with your S.O., there's no denying that there's something special about your first V-Day as a married couple. Next to your anniversary, this is your second biggest opportunity to show your partner how much you love them. Perhaps the best part about a married Valentine's Day is that the expectations are different than ever before. You know each other better—what to expect, what your partner likes—so all that's left to do is sit back and celebrate in the ways you both enjoy. Here are some fun ways to ring in February 14th as a newly-married couple.
Try something new.
If you've been together for a few years, there's a good chance you've checked off quite a few boxes together. But there are surely things still left to enjoy side-by-side that you've yet to tackle. Celeste Holbrook, Ph.D, sexologist and author of the online course Elevate: Overcoming Sexual Barriers, suggests making a new memory that's not only special on its own, but that signifies your first Valentine's as a married couple. "Maybe ditch the dinner crowds and do a movie marathon with takeout—or invite your best man and maid of honor over to celebrate with you over a picnic," she says. Whatever it is—big or small—make it something you'll remember for decades to come.
Make a love list.
It's not every day that you have the opportunity to tell your spouse just how much you love them. Busy schedules can make your lives somewhat routine and keep you distracted from showering each other with the words that can help strengthen your bond. That's why Dr. Holbrook recommends making a love list on Valentine's Day. Write down 14 things you love about your partner and place them in a jar. "Start on February 1st and read one each day until Valentine's Day," she says. "It's a great way to spread the holiday love and make a beautiful memory along the way."
Start a new tradition.
Your first year of marriage is a great time to start traditions that you want to repeat, suggests Dr. Holbook. Whether that's going to the movies to see a romantic comedy, hitting up your favorite sushi spot, traveling to a ski mountain for a weekend vacation, or simply going through your wedding album. There are endless possibilities to start special traditions you can look forward to each year.
Make Valentine's Day an opportunity to share love with others as well. "Volunteering together can create a great bond between the two of you and help you see a side of each other that is novel and unique," Dr. Holbrook says. "Serving side by side at a soup kitchen or walking dogs at the shelter is a lovely way to highlight one of the many ways you are attracted to each other."