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A Bridal Consultant's Best Wedding Dress Shopping Tips for Same-Sex Brides

Spoiler alert: You don't have to match.

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Weddings are all about creating your own traditions, and no celebration is more perfectly positioned to do so than an LGTBQ wedding. Since the legalization of gay marriage in 2015, hundreds of thousands of couples have tied the knot, and each pair has put their own touch on the long-awaited union. But, just like any wedding, there looms a familiar question with a unique twist: What to wear? For two brides, the options are seemingly endless. We've seen everything from the classic wedding dress and menswear-inspired white suits to chic jumpsuits and bold tuxes. If you're a couple who has decided to double up on gorgeous gowns, we've got tips to help you choose the right look. Read on for advice from Shay Yarborough, fashion consultant Kleinfeld Bridal, that will help you find the right big-day look.

 

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Shop in a vacuum.

If you already have an idea of what kind of dress your partner will wear on the big day, choosing something complementary might seem like the best idea, but Yarborough stresses that it's more important to focus on you. "A bride should choose the gown that best flatters her shape and makes her excited," he explains. That means you shouldn't force yourself into a ball gown when you've always envisioned a mermaid silhouette. "Allowing your different personalities to shine through your bridal gown is key."

 

Don't feel like you have to match.

If you've both dreamed of wearing a white wedding dress, be prepared to get a little more specific. Pure white, ivory, eggshell—each shade looks best on a specific complexion, which is why it's important to choose a dress in the color that's right for you, not your partner, Yarborough explains. While looking great together is important, there are plenty of ways to coordinate without one of you sacrificing your look. If you don't see yourself in the classic bridal shade but your partner does, that's just fine. One bride can choose to wear a colorful dress while the other walks down the aisle in something more traditional. Yarborough stresses that you shouldn't feel obligated to don matching colors, especially because there are other ways to make your looks feel cohesive.

 

Bring it together.

When you're ready to think big picture, Yarborough suggests two areas to focus on for a harmonious wardrobe. First, think about fabric. If you both know you love lace but have radically difference preferences beyond that, know that the fabrications of your dresses will tie your looks together. If you each have your heart set on something different, there are other ways to link your wardrobes. "Bringing in similar accessories is also a great idea," Yarborough says. Consider using veils, jewelry, and even bouquets as unifying accents.

 

Let your heart lead.

Above all, try not to overthink your selections, says Yarborough. "A wedding gown is the most self-expressed garment a woman will own. Follow your heart and you won't make a bad decision."