Joining a new family can be one of the most intimidating aspects of a marriage, but it doesn't have to be. The people who raised your partner are probably a big part of the adult he or she has become, and learning more about those formative relationships can be a really fun process. Here are a few ways to get to know your future in-laws, in case you haven't spent much time together already.
Ask them about their wedding.
What were the speeches like? Do they remember the bridesmaids' dresses? Did anything go horribly wrong? Were they nervous? Most people love to talk about their wedding, no matter how long ago it was. Chatting through your in-laws' wedding day may help you get to know them better, and may also help you come up with new ideas for your own nuptials.
Go through family photos with them.
Breaking out family photos is such a lovely way to get to know your future in-laws. Whether you're perusing photos of your partner as a kid, landscapes of beloved vacation spots, or generations of photography, you're sure to walk away from this experience feeling a closer connection to the family and your partner, too.
Start a tradition together.
Whether it's a weekly family dinner or a semi-annual trip to the mountains, start a family tradition that you can stick to. You'll want to keep it going after the wedding, too!
Go for a hike.
A good, long walk is a lovely way to get to know your in-laws. A little time in the sun and we promise the stories will start pouring out. Bring along a picnic to make it feel like a special event.
Visit a winery.
Wine tastings are a fun way to get people chatting about food, drinks, and culture. Take the in-laws to your favorite spot and you may learn a little more about them in the process.
Plan a beach trip.
If you're fortunate enough to live in an area where beaches are easy to travel to, think about picking up a sack of oysters and some wine and heading to the ocean for a few hours of sunshine and good chats with your soon-to-be-family.
Watch a series simultaneously.
Shared experiences don't have to happen in person. In fact, one of the best things about watching a series at the same time is that you'll have a ton to chat about when you see each other next. Plus, you'll learn a lot about one another by sharing reactions to plot twists and characters.
Go to a show together.
If you live in the same city, going to a show together is a great way to spend an evening with your future in-laws. Whether they're into theater, dance, or music, select something you'll all enjoy and plan to hang for a tea or coffee after.
Play a board game as a family.
It sounds simple, but it really is all about spending quality time. And anyone who's ever played an intense game of Scrabble knows a game can be a real ice breaker.
Have a weekly FaceTime chat.
With so many of us living in different time zones, a regular FaceTime with the in-laws is an easy way to get to know them a bit better.
Learn a new skill together.
You might want to join your mother-in-law for classes at a local pottery shop or dance studio. Learning a new skill can be a great way to spend quality time and get to know one another. Focusing on an activity also helps to take the pressure off.