What to Expect During Your First Year of Marriage
Spoiler alert! There's no magic formula for a perfect first year of marriage.
When you're busy planning a wedding, it's easy to so get wrapped up in all of the little details that you forget to think about what comes next. Making your relationship official comes with its own unique set of challenges, and the first year of marriage is often the most difficult one. To help you start out on the right foot, we're sharing four things to expect during the first 365 days as husband and wife, plus some helpful tips to make the transition from engaged to married a little more seamless.
Adjusting to a new routine.
If you weren't already living together before your wedding, it may take you a few weeks to get use to each other's schedules. After a while, though, you'll learn what time she leaves work, what time he gets to the gym, and what you like for dinner on Friday nights. Don't freak out when your routine is out-of-whack for a bit; you'll see that everything will settle into place soon. Those who already shared a home before their wedding likely won't see any changes to their everday schedule, but some routines will change. For example, if each of you spent holidays with your respective families, you'll need to work out a schedule for marking big occasions with your new in-laws, too.
When you were single, you were able to splurge on a new pair of shoes anytime you felt like it. Now, you'll need to have to be a conversation with your spouse before making any big-ticket purchases. Some of the biggest fights a couple will have during their first year of marriage are over finances. Take the time to sit down together and talk about monthly expenses, like car payments, school loans, savings, and credit card bills. Then, discuss where you'd like to allot any leftover cash. Is travel important to you as a couple? Do you need a separate budget for your morning vanilla latte? What about a clothing budget for each of you? If neither of you are great with finances and budgeting, think about enrolling in a financial management class or meeting with a financial advisor.
Communicating more clearly.
We can't say it enough: The two of you need to take time to really talk. All conflict can be resolved when you communicate well with one another. And no, that doesn't mean you're doing all of the talking while your partner listens. You're both going to have hard days, but being clear with your significant other will help you get through them. Plus, how you handle disagreements during your first year will set the precedent for the rest of your marriage.
Loving each other even more than before.
You've probably heard that kind of cheesy quote said before, "I didn't know I could love you more than I do right now, but tomorrow I know I will." It's actually true of your first year as a married couple. With each passing day, you'll learn even more about each other, and you'll be reminded of why you promised to love each other forever. Always be mindful of this.