After getting engaged, most brides are excited to jump straight into wedding planning. They happily choose the stationery suite, compile a guest list, shop for their dream wedding dress, and cross to-dos off their list with a smile on their face. Soon enough, though, the process of planning inevitably begins to take over a bride's life, causing anxiety-inducing stress and mental exhaustion. Here are five signs that you're beginning to get too stressed out by wedding planning, indicating that it's time for you to take a step back and relax.
You're no longer having fun.
The moment that looking at dresses, floral arrangements, cake flavors, and ceremony décor starts to feel more like a chore and less like something fun and exciting you get to do, you're probably on the brink of becoming too stressed out. If preparations aren't fun for you anymore, that's a sure sign that you should take a much-needed break and reevaluate the situation. You want to look back on your engagement fondly, without memories of stress-induced anxiety!
You find yourself procrastinating on important tasks.
To cope with the exhaustion of wedding planning, some brides start procrastinating on important tasks. Booking vendor appointments now feels tedious, and you'd rather talk about anything but the ceremony and reception. Try solving the issue by recruiting a friend or wedding planner to help tackle your long list of to-dos. Or you can try breaking down your responsibilities into more manageable duties, like choosing your centerpieces and shopping for earrings, which feel less overwhelming than staring down a long list of broad tasks.
You second guess every decision.
For some brides, stress causes overthinking. You may start to question every decision you've made, whether it's the color of the bridesmaids' dresses or the size of the guest list. Suddenly every detail of the wedding seems wrong, and the feelings of regret and disappointment simply won't go away. If you find yourself second guessing everything about the big day, lay off the planning for a short period of time. You'll come back with a clear mind, and likely realize that your original plans don't need to be changed.
You're becoming a bridezilla.
You want your big day to be flawless, but the desire to create a Pinterest-worthy ceremony may lead to obsessive attention to detail and controlling behavior. In other words, a stressed-out bride may turn into a bridezilla. To prevent stress—and to avoid become a diva along the way—it's best to recognize bridezilla behavior as soon as it appears. Then give yourself a reality check: Do you really want the stress of wedding planning to influence your mood and behavior?
Your personal life is beginning to suffer.
Your life is already busy with work, social obligations, and everyday chores. Adding wedding planning to the mix will inevitably stretch your schedule, but it shouldn't eat up every second of free time. Don’t let your relationships and lifestyle take a back seat to wedding planning. Spending sufficient time with your fiancé(e)—without worrying about the wedding—is key to maintaining a healthy relationship. Similarly, continuing to allot time to your passions will help you destress, becoming a more clear-minded and effective wedding planner.