Being asked to make a speech or offer a toast at a wedding is an honor. Make yours memorable by following these six simple pointers, whether this is your first time or not. Trust us, theses etiquette tips will help you, and every guest in attendance, enjoy your time at the mic.
It'd be inappropriate to heckle a wedding speaker but it's tempting when he or she says very little but keeps going round and round saying the same thing. Days before the wedding, think of an anecdote that epitomizes the bride or groom, or both, then think of some way to say congratulations and wish them well.
Skip the inside jokes.
Your speech—and you—will immediately become boring when you reference "dinosaur ears" or any other inside joke that will crack up only seven people in the room and leave out everyone else.
Keep it brief.
This goes along with being prepared. If you haven't practiced what you'll say ahead of time, you'll have the tendency to ramble. And let's face it: Everyone wants to get on the dance floor or dig into dinner, not hear the maid of honor's timeline of her friendship with the bride since middle school. Two minutes is plenty.
Avoid reading your speech.
Even if you're nervous talking in front of a crowd, memorize your speech and rely on index cards with key points you want to make. Reading a speech will make you sound less sincere and more robotic. You don't have to be perfect—just genuine.
Be sure to practice at least a few times.
Just like everything else in life, the more you do it, the better you get at it. So say your speech out loud until you feel comfortable with the material and your performance.
Don't admit you didn't know what to say.
What kind of audience will want to hear someone admit the next few minutes aren't worth listening to?