How Hands-Off Can I Be with My Wedding Planner?
Yep, even brides with wedding planners have long to-do lists.
If there's any conversation you should have with your wedding planner before deciding to hire them, it's how involved you'd like to be (or not be) during the planning process. By being clear about the role you'd like your planner to play from the beginning, you'll avoid potential conflicts and added stress later on. Here are a few things to know about how hands-off you can be with your wedding planner.
Your wedding planning package should be customized.
Many wedding planners put a good bit of research and understanding into how you'll work best together prior to being hired. As a result, they may suggest you hire them for all the bells and whistles of planning and designing every wedding-weekend event, or that you hire them for a partial planning service. Whatever your agreement, you should have a proposal in writing that outlines what tasks your planner will be available to assist with. If there's a specific task you're dreading, you should get this conversation out of the way during the hiring process.
Your wedding planner should keep you organized and on track.
Most wedding planners will start you off with a customized monthly to-do list that outlines all of the small and large tasks you'll have to complete and decisions you'll have to make leading up to the wedding. It's their priority to make sure you don't fall off-track or let major deadlines slip through the cracks.
There are always going to be things your wedding planner cannot do for you.
Without knowing your family personally, your wedding planner will never be able to put together your guest list, choose your attire, sign checks and contracts on your behalf, send your thank-you notes, or create your seating chart. They can provide you with tools to make all these tasks easier, but it's unrealistic to think that a wedding planner will be able to take on every single wedding task for you.
You should feel comfortable with the amount of and quality of work your wedding planner's doing.
Wedding planners hate being micro-managed just as much as the next service provider, but don't be afraid to say something if you're not getting your needs met. The relationship you have with your wedding planner works best if you're able to communicate openly and honestly so that all tasks on both your lists are taken care of in a timely and professional manner. Trusting your planner's guidance, organizational tools, creative ability, and general advice are crucial to the enjoyment of working together and planning a beautiful, fun, and relaxing wedding.