9 Common Wedding Day Fears—and How to Get Over Them
How to ease your biggest wedding worries before walking down the aisle.
Every engaged couple wants their wedding day to be free of any hiccups. But despite extensive preparations and planning sessions, many brides-to-be can't help feeling nervous that something will go wrong on the big day. To help you avoid unnecessary pre-wedding stress, we're sharing nine of the most common wedding day fears and how to get over them-because no bride should have to spend the days leading up to her wedding plagued by sweaty palms and a knotted stomach.
Rain on your wedding day is often seen as good luck, but that won't stop a bride from panicking if a storm shows up on the forecast. Unfortunately, the weather can't be controlled or predicted, so the best way to decrease stress is by being prepared. Always have a backup plan for wind, rain, snow, cold temperatures, and anything else Mother Nature may decide to throw at you. If bad weather does decide to visit, keep a positive mindset by embracing the change. Remember: Wedding photos in the pouring rain (under a large umbrella, of course) will make adorable keepsakes!
Guests Not Showing Up
No bride likes to imagine an empty venue with tons of vacant seat. The thought may be troubling, but it likely won't ever happen to you. Remember that your wedding guest list consists of your closest family and friends who would love to participate in your festivities. Send your save-the-dates early and trust your RSVP responses. Call any invitee with an outstanding RSVP response about a week after the due date to confirm whether they plan to attend. If you're still worried about low attendance, you can always send a reminder email shortly before your wedding day. Then, at the ceremony and reception, focus on celebrating your marriage with guests in attendance instead of fretting about the select few who didn't show up.
Tripping Down the Aisle
It's every bride's worst nightmare: Wiping out while walking down the aisle in front of your friends, relatives, and fiancé. But this common fear is (thankfully!) an uncommon occurrence. To prevent disaster, avoid wearing super high heels and gowns that hinder your walking abilities, and practice walking down the aisle in your full bridal ensemble. Choosing a smooth, sturdy aisle runner that won't bunch under your feet is another way to avoid a mishap.
Your wedding is bound to be one the most photographed events of your life. That said, many brides worry that their day won't be properly documented. Whether you're anxious about bad lighting or missed moments, keep in mind that your photographer is an expert. They understand when and where to take the best photos, and they have extensive experience with the nitty-gritty details of lighting, poses, and angles. Hire a photographer you trust to do the job. And don't be afraid to send a list of "must-take" photos before the ceremony.
Bad Hair (or Makeup) Day
Since all eyes fall on the bride during a wedding, most women feel pressure to look perfect throughout the day. Naturally, this introduces a host of worries about bad hair days and smeared makeup. Schedule a trial hair and makeup session weeks before the ceremony. Take note of any changes you'd like, whether it's a different eyeshadow shade or tighter curls, and rest easy knowing that your bridal look won't be a total surprise. Another piece of advice: Stick with products you know and love, or test out wedding industry favorites that won't fade, smear, or smudge throughout the day.
Instead of worrying about a rowdy crowd, keep in mind that you can't control the behavior of your guests. Don't let a drunken uncle or tantrum-throwing child dampen the mood of your wedding day. If you're extremely worried about the behavior of a guest, consider speaking with them beforehand about the issue-or put your bridesmaids on damage control duty at the reception.
Not Pleasing Everyone
Naturally, a bride and groom want every guest to fully enjoy the festivities. But choosing a dinner menu or playlist that satisfies a large crowd of people is nearly impossible, and you're bound to have a handful of guests quietly complaining about the wedding cake flavor or reception décor. Accept the fact that you won't please everyone, and stick with wedding elements that you'll enjoy. After all, you're the one planning and paying for the celebration, and you should incorporate your favorite elements into the day.
Messing Up Your Vows
Reciting your wedding vows in front of your fiancé, friends, and relatives is an intimidating experience for any bride, whether she's a public speaking expert or novice. To ease your fears, try practicing before your ceremony-especially if you're writing your own vows. Remember that a little speaking slip-up doesn't signify a doomed ceremony. Chances are, your guests won't even notice the mess-up.
Diverging from the Timeline
In the days leading to her wedding, a bride's mind is usually full of worries about a broken alarm clock, late vendors, or backed-up traffic. After months of meticulous planning, there's no use wasting energy worrying about imaginary situations. Trust your vendors to do their jobs correctly, factor in some extra time for traffic, and double check your alarm clock. But, really, how many brides have slept through their ceremony?