Through the many stages of wedding planning—from ideas to execution—thousands of thoughts pass through the minds of brides-to-be, including excitement, worry, sentiment, rush and joy. The groom, however, will have his own emotions and concerns whirling through his mind. Here's what real grooms thought about during the preparation of their "I do's."
A Wedding-Planning Checklist for the Groom
Dom of Charlotte, N.C. says his number one feeling was anxiety before he was married just one year ago. "Excitement and joy were definitely felt, too. But I had no idea how involved and detailed planning a wedding really was," Dom says. His No. 1 role was planning around the family—which no small feat. "Everything from deciding who was going to be in the wedding party, to who to invite, or what family members to include in the ceremony was very stressful," he adds. "We wanted to be as inclusive as possible without hurting anyone's feelings because we wanted to let everyone that was invited to know how important they were to us."
Next month, Barry of Corona, Calif. will marry the love of his life—who he has been living with for 30 years. (That's right, 30!) He says that nothing but positive vibes are coming from him at this point. "My honest thoughts as we work with the wedding planner and the photographer and the harpist and the venue, and try to put the whole thing together? I'm happy," Barry says. "Very happy actually. Because this is something my fiancé has wanted and deserves." He says that with all that said, he'd be thrilled to go to the courthouse to tie the knot in a quick, 15-minute ceremony, but, "If this will make her happy, that will make me happy. And I expect to be very happy," he adds.
Soon-to-be-husband Jaycob of Chico, Calif. says he's excited about the parts of the wedding he can control, but admittedly apathetic about all other wedding planning details. He says he doesn't want to mess with the theme of the wedding—that's something he'd like to leave to his fiancé. "I really am not interested in what color linens we have or whether our table is a 'sweetheart' or a big head table," he says. "I care about who is going to be there, and if they'll like the food, or have fun during the reception."
A heavy weight
Quinton of Novi, Mich., who was married just one year ago, said he felt an enormous amount of pressure leading up to the big day. "The elements of the wedding planning process that caused the most pressure for me were the [unexpected] ones: uplighting, flowers, selecting color schemes," Quinton says. "Those were areas I couldn't be of much help because I either didn't know they existed, or didn't have a real opinion one way or the other. I felt pressure not to feel apathetic, but honestly, my lack of knowledge or experience kept me from having a strong opinion."