6 Ways You're Annoying Your Bridesmaids (and Ruining Your Friendships)
In other words: how to not be a bridezilla.
Your friends love you, but their love won't overcome your bridezilla behavior. Treat your bridesmaids with respect, and, most importantly, don't make these mean-girl moves.
Choosing a dress they can't afford.
Yes, it's your day. You should have the look and feel that you've always imagined, but not at the expense of your bridesmaids' bank accounts. If you know your friends are on a beer budget, but you have Champagne taste, don't pick a $400 designer dress. Try to find a similarly nice dress at a more reasonable price, or foot the bill yourself.
Expecting them to be at your beck and call.
Planning a wedding may make you feel like a princess, but don't expect Duchess of Cambridge-style service. There's no royal staff to meet your every need. Sure, you can ask your friends to ride along for a tasting or floral appointment, but don't call them at 8 a.m. on Saturday and expect them to drop everything they're doing to rush over and solve your crisis of the day.
Inviting them sans date.
Skipping plus-ones can definitely be a money saver for your bottom line, but you have to do it thoughtfully. If your bridesmaid has a long-term love (especially one you've spent time with), she'll be the only person over 18 without one, or she's traveling a long distance, let her bring a date. It's the least you can do with all of the time (and money) she's investing in your big day.
Pushing pricey hair and makeup.
Unless she's incapable of doing a makeup look that doesn't resemble Morticia Adams, there's no reason for her to shell out another $100 for makeup, plus $100 more for hair. It's a lot to ask. Offer your bridesmaids the option to do hair and makeup, but don't make it a must-have unless it's your treat.
Selecting unflattering fashion.
There's no such thing as a one-style-fits-all dress. Repeat this. Remember this. Each bridesmaid is her own person. It's true that there's nothing wrong with everyone wearing the same color or general style, but expecting everyone to look fab in a strapless dress is unrealistic. The new trend of multiway dresses can be a great option to avoid fidgety, uncomfortable bridesmaids. Or, you know, you could always embrace the mismatched bridesmaids' dresses trend and let them choose their own looks.
Planning (or demanding) multiple expensive events.
You're excited! That's so great, but don't let your excitement outweigh your reality. It's OK to go big or go home on one event (think: engagement party, bridal shower, bachelorette party, destination wedding), but stick to one showstopper. Expecting your friends to pay for multiple gifts, plane tickets, hotel rooms, and other extras is expecting too much.