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5 Things a Bride Should Never Do

The following transgressions have been committed by brides who've come before you. Don't be one of them.

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Being a bride could quite possibly be the most exciting time in your life to date. All the hoopla surrounding the wedding, all the build up and planning for the DAY of days, all the attention on you—it's easy to get swept away in it all. And it's also easy to lose sight of perspective. Being a bride does not give you a free pass for acting like a diva nor does it bestow a rite of entitlement or license to lash out on a whim. Here, a few things you should never, ever do—under any circumstance.


Bridal Freak-Outs That Are Totally Acceptable

Making your bridesmaids sacrifice a paycheck to pay for their dress.

Every bride has likely been a bridesmaid, and if she hasn't, she's heard the tale of woe from a friend or a friend of a friend. So she is well aware the anguish of handing over what feels like a limb to pay for a bridesmaid dress. Be considerate of your friends' budgets and the fact that they'll only wear this dress once.

Leaving an unsuspecting bridesmaid on the mother-in-law.

In every family there is (at least) one offender, be it a sister, an aunt, a mother, who, when left unattended, spews a stream of insults so vile, she knocks everyone over in her wake. Now granted, as a friend/bridesmaid, part of the role is playing politician, but leaving said friend alone for hours with your mother-in-law is not okay. At least find someone in the family to do the honors (doesn't she have a second cousin?).

Seating a single guest at a table with all couples.

The one exception to this fail is if the single guest is actually friends with the majority of people at the table. Otherwise, this one act will singlehandedly make her feel like the entire room is mocking her with their eyes. And if you know she's going to be the only single guest, for the love of all things holy, let her bring a date—or at least another friend, people!

Calling out a specific person to catch the bouquet.

No self-respecting single lady wants to be seen running for the bouquet like it was the last piece of food on earth. And even worse, forcibly pushed into the ring by a posse of bridesmaids doing the bride's bidding. Enough said.

Skipping a thank-you note.

So we live in a digital world, and everyone is busier than everyone else, and remembering your own name can sometimes be a feat—but (and really process this concept) none of these are acceptable excuses to forgo a thank-you note. You can make the time to write a note. You had time to open the gifts and go on your honeymoon. Everyone deserves a little appreciation—not just for their gifts, but for sacrificing their precious time for you. Case rested.


Wedding Thank-You Note Dos and Don'ts