An Outdoor Wedding at Aunt Martha's

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Photo: Charlotte Jenks Lewis

How do childhood classmates turn into grown-up partners in life? With a nudge from Facebook, the support of old friends, and a sophisticated celebration at a favorite family member's farm.

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Kristina and Barrett

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Charlotte Jenks Lewis

"He was the class clown, and I was the perfect audience, shamelessly laughing at every joke," says Kristina Christiansen, describing her early relationship with Barrett Miningham when they attended first through fourth grades together in Fairfield, Connecticut. "Mrs. Meachen, Ms. Kleinecht, Mrs. Drummond, and Miss Reilly—they all learned that we couldn't sit next to each other without disrupting those around us," she recalls. In fifth grade, they ended up in separate classrooms, and in seventh, Barrett's family relocated to Tampa, Florida. "I was disappointed," says Kristina. After a while, they lost touch.

By 2010, each of them was living in New York City and even working in the same office building: he at Tommy Hilfiger, she, in digital ad sales for her aunt Martha Stewart's company. But they didn't bump into each other until fate—or, actually, Facebook—intervened. Kristina popped up on Barrett's "People You May Know" feed on the app. He messaged her, and, after a week of cyber­chatting, asked her to meet him at a friend's gallery opening a few blocks from their offices. Kristina wasn't positive it was a real date—although she hoped so. "We went out for sushi afterward and shut down the restaurant because we couldn't stop talking," she recalls. As for Barrett, he says, "I knew she was 'The One.'"

Five years after that first, very real, date, Barrett, who now works for Chilewich textile­ design company, proved himself right, marrying Kristina in front of 98 guests at Aunt Martha's farm in Katonah, New York, on September 19, 2015. The wedding combined the couple's love of the outdoors with the bride's sense of style. "I grew up competing in equestrian events," says Kristina, who now works at Bark & Co, which sends monthly goody boxes to subscribing pet owners. "I wanted to bring horses into the day without having a rustic wedding." Instead, she set out to create a black-­tie celebration that would call for a glamorous dress.

They got the best of both worlds. The duo had their first look in a paddock and exchanged vows in front of Martha's stone stables. "It was a dramatic backdrop, which let me have the red ­carpet gown I wanted," says Kristina. During the ceremony, she could hear horses "whinnying, neighing, and snorting," she recalls. "Everyone was laughing; I loved every second."

Post ­vows, guests gathered for cocktails and live jazz. The father of the bride, best man, and maid of honor offered toasts, the couple welcomed everyone, and the barn doors opened to reveal a space transformed with swags of fabric, strings of lights, and tables set for what Kristina calls "a really lively, fun dinner party." After a meal of rack of lamb and halibut, the newlyweds started dancing to Michael Bublé's version of "Can't Help Falling in Love," and didn't stop until the lights came on at the end of the night. "Barrett and I were the last to go," recalls Kristina. "When we walked out through the doors, everyone was holding sparklers." It was a surprise that had them laughing together, just as they did back in grade school, before they had any inkling of the sparkling future that awaited them.

Watch Kristina and Barrett's Wedding Video

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The Stationery Suite

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Charlotte Jenks Lewis

The save-the-date showed a photo of the ceremony site, while the letterpressed suite featured a fern motif and foil-stamped monogram. The pieces were designed by The Nouveau Romantics.

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A Welcome Box

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Guests received boxes put together by A Signature Welcome, which included Champagne, water, and canisters of the couple's favorite snacks (Cheetos for him, caramel popcorn for her, and Tate's Bake Shop chocolate chip cookies for both).

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A White and Green Bridal Bouquet

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The bride's bouquet was made up of garden roses, anemones, ranunculus, parrot tulips, hellebores, and orchids. The Nouveau Romantics created the green-and-white clutch using wholesale blooms sourced FiftyFlowers.

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A Letter from the Groom

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Barrett had a love letter delivered to Kristina as she took her pre-ceremony portraits.

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The First Look

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The couple had their first look in the paddock. "The horses were in the field with us," says Kristina—which is just how the equestrienne wanted it!

Kristina wore a fit-and-flare gown with a beaded bodice by Alon Livné White and Barrett Miningham donned J.Crew. Though she tried on more than 100 dresses over the course of her three-month search, the bride was delighted to find the winning dress at Mark Ingram Atelier. Her tip for dress shopping? "Have someone film you walking in the dress you're considering, because so much of what the gown is about is how it looks when you're walking down the aisle, or when you twirl in it," she notes.

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A Family Portrait

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The couple paused for a photo with their parents and siblings before the ceremony. "The first time I cried was when I saw my mom all ready," says Kristina. "I was so excited."

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The Bridesmaids

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"It was the one dress that looked good on every single girl," says Kristina of the peacock-green Jenny Yoo gown she chose for her 'maids. Two of the bridesmaids had known both the bride and groom in grade school.

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Bridesmaids' Bouquets

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Charlotte Jenks Lewis

Bridesmaids carried clutches that included parrot tulips, anemones, ranunculus, lisianthus, mini calla lilies, hosta leaves, cotinus leaves, hellebores and privet berries.

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A Gift for the Bridesmaids

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Kristina gave her bridesmaids gold bracelets by Miansai.

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The Bride's Entrance

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Charlotte Jenks Lewis

The stable doors opened and Kristina's father, Martha Stewart's brother, walked her down the aisle to the outdoor ceremony.

"I spent a lot of time thinking about what it would be like when Kristina walked down the aisle, and everything about her and the ceremony exceeded my expectations," Barrett recalls.

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The Ceremony

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The officiant created a custom ceremony, loosely based on a United Church of Christ Congregational framework and her meetings with the couple. "Our goal was for everyone to know how we met, why we're together, and why we want to start a life together," says Kristina.

The couple chose three of the four texts recited during their wedding from a book their officiant recommended titled Into the Garden: A Wedding Anthology. The ceremony began with the celebrant reading the poem Fidelity, by D. H. Lawrence. Next, Martha read A Wedding Toast, by James Bertolino, which Kristina had found online. After the Declaration of Consent, a groomsman read A Pavane for the Nursery, by William Jay Smith. The concluding poem was Elliott Arnold's Now You Will Feel No Rain.

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The Flower Girl

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Charlotte Jenks Lewis

Kristina's cousin's daughter did flower girl duty, wearing a dress from Laundry by Shelli Segal.

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A Photo with Aunt Martha

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Charlotte Jenks Lewis

The newlyweds took a photo with Martha and her new chow chow, Peluche.

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The Seating Chart

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Seating assignments were digitally printed onto frosted Plexiglas and suspended from barn rafters with clear fishing line.

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The Place Settings

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Vellum menus were personalized with each guest's name and wrapped around a Chilewich navy linen napkin.

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The Table Décor

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Long tables held centerpieces of white anemones, tulips, orchids, hellebores, ranunculus, calla lilies, and ladyslipper orchids, along with an abundance of ferns. The floral arrangements were flanked by votives in an array of green glass holders from Glassybaby.

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The Reception Setup

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Guests sat at long tables under garlands of smilax, swags of fabric, and strings of lights.

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The Reception

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The barn was aglow as the sun set on the autumn evening.

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A Croquembouche

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Charlotte Jenks Lewis

"Neither of us likes cake, but we wanted that cake-cutting moment," says Kristina. The solution? A croquembouche. The dessert holds fond memories for Kristina, who says, "Martha made these at holidays when I was little."

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Small Desserts

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Desserts, by The SoNo Baking Company, included profiteroles and lemon, raspberry, and blueberry tartlets.

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Custom Napkins

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The same fern motif that graced the invitations was embossed onto green dessert napkins from ForYourParty.com.

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Dancing with Mom

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While his bride looked on, the groom and his mom took to the floor as Ed Sheeran's "Photograph" played.

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Salt Favors

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As foodies, the pair gave guests favors of two varieties of gourmet salts: smoked alderwood and cypress flake.

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A Sparkler Send-Off

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Charlotte Jenks Lewis

The couple left their reception as guests waved sparklers. Kristina changed into a short number by Kate McDonald Bridal for The White Dress by the Shore in time for the after-party. Though the newlyweds anticipated about 45 guests would join them for the continued celebration at the Bedford Post Inn, 96 ended up showing up.

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Sources

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Event planning, design, stationery, and flowers, The Nouveau Romantics

Catering, Michael Stuart NY

Photography, Charlotte Jenks Lewis

Videography, For The Love Of It

Officiant,Dr. Katherine Kurs

Calligraphy, Nicole Black of The Left Handed Calligrapher

Desserts and Bread, The SoNo Baking Company

Doughnuts, Doughnut Plant

Music, (ceremony & cocktail hour)Bon Musique; (reception DJ) The Flashdance DJs

Rentals, Party Rental Ltd.; Glassybaby; Party Line Tent Rentals

Bride's dresses, Alon Livné White from Mark Ingram Atelier; (reception dress) Kate McDonald Bridal for The White Dress by the shore

Bride's accessories, Stuart Weitzman shoes; Anton Heunis for Bhldn earrings; Steven Kirsch engagement ring and wedding band

Hair, Once Upon A Bride

Makeup, Daisy Schwartzberg at the Rita Hazan Salon

Bridesmaids' dresses, Jenny Yoo

Flower Girl dress, Laundry by Shelli Segal

Groom's tuxedo, pocket square, and bow tie, J.Crew

Menswear, The Black Tux

Groom's accessories, Suitsupply shirt; Alden shoes; Brooks Brothers suspenders; Steven Kirsch wedding ring

Lighting and draping, Stortz Lighting

Transportation, Green Light Limousine Service

Bridesmaids' bracelets, Miansai

Wholesale flowers, FiftyFlowers.com

Custom cocktail napkins, ForYourParty.com

Dessert table runners and dinner table napkins, Chilewich

Styling and dressing service, Beth Chapman Styling

Martha's dress, Lanvin

Mother of the bride dress, Adrianna Papell, customized by The White Dress by the Shore

Restrooms, Enviro-Clean

Salt, The Filling Station

Salt jars, SKS Bottle & Packaging, Inc., item # 0605-50

Sound,Rheewind Productions

Welcome Boxes, A Signature Welcome

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