10 Things Every Bride Can Do to Keep Her Bridesmaids Happy
They are there to stand by your side. Make the honor a mutual one—and create memories that will last a lifetime—with these thoughtful tips for pampering your attendants.
Invite Them With a Surprise
“Propose” to your bridesmaids with a treat to make them feel special and to get them excited to join your wedding party. A small trinket, like these macaron boxes that enclose a personalized message, is a great way to woo them.
When organizing outings with all your ’maids, try not to inconvenience anyone who has a busy schedule. Websites like whenisgood.net can help you figure out a time to meet that works for everyone.
If you know that certain members of your bridal party have financial restraints, keep that in mind when it comes to your activities and bridesmaid attire. If one person really needs help, feel free to assist her with the costs, but keep it between the two of you.
Let Everybody Shine
Encourage your bridesmaids to express their own personal style when it comes to their big-day dresses: after all, you hand-picked each and every girl for a reason! To keep the group unified, select a range of options for them to consider or share a color scheme that they have to work within.
Don’t Play Favorites
Your maid of honor traditionally can accompany you to wedding-planning appointments, such as your dress fitting or cake tasting. However, unless they are family members, you should not ask specific bridesmaids to go to events related to your celebration that others are not invited to. Either invite them all, or invite no one.
Remember Your Manners
Three little words—“please” and “thank you”—speak volumes. Say them to your ladies to express gratitude, no matter how small a task they have performed. Not only is it good form, but it also will help your friends feel like they play a noticed role in the celebration.
Don’t Get Party Happy
It can be difficult to make it to two engagement parties, four bridesmaid brunches, an out-of-state bachelorette party, and a bridal shower. Even if loved ones offer to throw more events for you, try to limit the number of obligations placed on your bridal party. And if they can’t make it to something, let them know they will be missed, but don’t pressure them to attend.
Give Them a Plus-One
When it comes to your bridesmaids, letting them bring an escort would be a considerate gesture. It’s not required, but they’ve done a lot for you. If it’s not feasible, a good rule of thumb is if she has a significant other, they are invited, no questions asked. If one of your ’maids starts dating someone seriously after invitations are sent out, be flexible and let her know her new love interest is welcome. However, you can say no if she asks in the eleventh hour.
Present a Thoughtful Token
As you get ready with your girls before the wedding ceremony, make those last moments special. Give them a meaningful present or something to wear down the aisle, like a simple charm bracelet or homemade earrings, as a reminder of your love and appreciation for them.
Never forget that you asked your bridesmaids to join your wedding party because you wanted them to go through this experience with you. Make the most of this time together and have fun!