20 Years of Wedding Wisdom: Registering for Gifts

“One of the most common mistakes is not registering for enough gifts. Have about twice as many gifts on your registry as invites sent out. This way your guests have options for your shower as well as your big day. It is also important to register for a range of price points so it offers your guests a wide selection of options.” —Macy’s Wedding & Gift Registry

“While the kitchen will always be the heart of the home, adding things like art, a great chair, a cool lamp, or a fresh set of sheets to your registry can really breathe new life into the other spaces in your house.” —Victoria van Roijen, Manager of Registry Marketing, Williams-Sonoma

“Use checklists as a guide, but not a set plan. We suggest registering for 14 plates instead of 12. You’ll have two extra in case any break.” —Shan-Lyn Ma, CEO, Zola

“When you register, it’s the perfect opportunity to upgrade what you already have—dishes, cookware, bedding—so choose quality brands and products you’ll enjoy for years to come.” —Kohl’s

“Revisit and update your registry frequently, after showers and engagement parties, and when you think of a new item to add. It helps to offer fresh ideas for guests who are still searching for the perfect gift, and groups who may like to go in on a large gift together!” —Janie Sellers, Bridal Manager, Belk Inc.

“Don’t forget the flatware! There is often a lot of time and effort put into registering for dinnerware and the flatware tends to be an afterthought. Beautiful flatware can be the finishing touch for a table display. Look for durable flatware that is made of 18/10 stainless steel and is dishwasher safe.” —Holli Draughn, Vice President, Vietri

“Make your own choices—don’t let yourself be influenced by your mom and registry consultants. But be sure to discuss home options with your fiancé(e)!” —Jamie Sanford, Internet Marketing Manager, Noritake

When you open presents, immediately record who gave you what, either in your log or right on the gift cards, which you could keep together in a specially designated box. Despite your best efforts, a few gifts may become separated from their cards. If the gift was from your registry, call the store to see if it has a record of who purchased it. If not, you may have to try figuring it out by the process of elimination.

“Use your fine china and crystal as often as possible—for casual or formal entertaining. These are the most durable products you own and can stand up to everyday use.” —Vincent Mazza, Marketing Director, Waterford Crystal

Ideally, you should acknowledge every present immediately; writing a note the day you receive it is best, but sending it within two weeks is also acceptable. Of course, the period surrounding your wedding is a busy time; if you fall behind, just make every effort to send a thank you as soon as you can—but no later than three months after the event.

“Entertaining is about enjoying time at home with friends and family. Decorate your table with all the things you love, and don’t be afraid to mix and match patterns.” —Jennifer Morganelli, Vice President of Marketing, WWRD