Ring Bearers and Flower Girls
How to Choose
If you are close to any small children, including them in your wedding party is lovely. Keep in mind, however, that children can't be expected to behave like adults. Flower girls and ring bearers should generally be at least four years old and mature enough to handle their ceremonial role. A very shy or fidgety child will probably not do well in the spotlight. Ask your candidates' parents whether they think their youngsters will be able to manage.

What Do They Do?
The ring bearer and flower girl precede the bride down the aisle. He carries the wedding rings (or decoys, if he's too little to be trusted with the real things), tied to a small pillow. The flower girl may carry a basket of petals, which she scatters as she walks, or a nosegay. After the procession is over and the rings are handed off to the best man, the children's work is done, and they can be seated with their parents.

Etiquette Tip
Ring bearers' and flower girls' outfits and accessories are usually paid for by their parents. Discuss your choices with them in advance, and be sure to keep your selections within their budget.