Best Man
How to Choose
At one time, the best man was usually a brother, but these days anyone is appropriate, provided he (or she) is important to the groom and is willing to assume this demanding role.

What Does He Do?
As the other honor attendant in the wedding, the best man is kept just as busy as the maid of honor. He helps the groom select the men's tuxedos and sees to it that everyone gets fitted. He may also act as bachelor-party planner. In addition, the best man is charged with getting the groom to the ceremony on time, marriage certificate in hand, and keeping him calm and relaxed. He stands at the groom's side during the ceremony and signs the marriage certificate. He may also hold the bride's ring (or both rings).

Afterwards he hands out payments -- for the officiant, and for any other sundry expenses that come up the day of the wedding. At the reception, the best man traditionally offers the first toast. He's often also called upon to safeguard gift envelopes and orchestrate a smooth departure for the newlyweds when the party is over.

Etiquette Tip
Not every best man is a gifted public speaker. If yours is shy and serious, don't pressure him to deliver a lengthy, entertaining toast; let him know in advance that short and sincere is just fine.