From the ability to help host a memorable bridal shower to the patience required to hold the bride's dress in the ladies' room on her big day, each and every bridesmaid plays a vital role in ensuring the big day goes smoothly. Here, wedding planner Amy Cagginello shares what makes a truly incredible bridesmaid stand out. If you exude any of these admirable traits, you're sure to be the lifeline the bride needs on her very special day.
You bring all the fun.
Especially during stressful and trying moments, a great bridesmaid will see when it's time to switch over to good-time mode. Impromptu dance party at the bridal gown store? Check. Making the audience laugh during the rehearsal party speech? Check! "Standing beside a bride on her wedding day often means that bridesmaid has been by her side for some fun times–and maybe not so fun times," Cagginello says. "Being a bridesmaid is certainly an honor. After all, they are serving as support crew for the bride's biggest parties: The bridal shower, bachelorette and, of course, the wedding!" So when asked to be a bridesmaid, she should definitely be ready to celebrate good times with her good friend.
You are selfless.
Simply put, being a bridesmaid is broken down to being a maid to the bride. "That is a tad old fashioned, of course. By no means should a bridesmaid serve a bride; however, they must recognize that being a bridesmaid is not about them. It's about the bride and her wedding," Cagginello says. "This isn't a time for a bridesmaid to be bitter about not being married, not liking the selected dresses, shoes, etc. She should support the bride's decisions and just be easy going."
You're as helpful as can be.
You are there are the bride's lifeline. She has to know she can count on you. And that also means possibly helping out with the shower, stuffing invitations, assisting with DIY projects, and more. "We all have careers and families, and sometimes live far from our engaged friend, so even if a bridesmaid can't physically be there to help, she could send a bottle of wine, or snacks for the DIY session, or perhaps take some calls or research of the bride's plate if she does not have a wedding planner," Cagginello says.
You're able to go with the flow.
Come what may, and make it work. A bridesmaid will have to be calm enough to navigate among many multiple personalities on a project or event. Especially because emotional event elements are bound to come up, the bridal party can quickly change pace or have conflicting opinions, Cagginello says. "Being able to go with the flow, and being easy-going, will ensure that a bridesmaid could help provide the solution to anything that could arise, and make sure that the situation is handled as smoothly as possible."
You show generosity.
Being a bridesmaid means donating resources, including money, energy, and weekends into this one special day, and it'll mean the world for the woman close enough to you to request you filling the role. It can be costly when factoring in trips, dresses, hotel rooms, hair, and make-up costs, and more. "A bridesmaid must be prepared at the onset for the time and financial commitments, or be open with the bride about any potential conflicts to avoid any unnecessary stress or drama for the bride," Cagginello says.