You have just been given the honor of being a bridesmaid, and you are beyond stoked (and truthfully, a bit nervous). There are a lot of exciting activities for you leading up to the wedding, so don't let the associated costs blindside you! Last year, the average cost of being in a wedding was $703 (not including flights to out-of-town fêtes). Wondering if you'll be able to stand up for your friend without breaking the bank? Read our guide to see where you can expect to spend, what you can expect the bride to cover, and how to stay totally on-trend and budget-friendly.
What All Bridesmaids Need to Know About Dress Shopping
The dresses and alterations.
Who pays: Usually the bridesmaids.
How much: The average cost is about $200.
How to save: Talk to the bride about your budget concerns before she chooses bridesmaids' dresses, and rest assured that there are plenty of gorgeous options in an affordable range. Another easy way to save is to get necessary alterations done by a tailor instead of at the bridal salon.
Your Ultimate Guide to Dress Alterations
Accessories, jewelry, and shoes.
Who pays: It depends. Bridesmaids typically pay for their own accessories, but if the bride is asking you to wear specific shoes, cover-ups or jewels, she will often pick up the check and give those items as a gift.
How much: Anywhere from $30 to $200, depending on the styles selected.
How to save: If you're able to wear the accessories of your choice, try to wear something you already have or can borrow from a friend. Otherwise, find something pretty that's on sale (just make sure you LOVE it before purchasing, just in case you can't return it later). Second-hand and vintage stores are also great spots for finding inexpensive clutches and costume jewelry.
The bridal shower.
Who pays: It depends. Hosting responsibilities may fall to the bridesmaids, but the bride's mother or another relative may also jump in to plan and pay.
How much: If you're asked to host, set a budget before you start planning. Consider the cost of the location, food, drinks, and any game prizes when determining the maximum amount you want to spend. And don't be afraid to ask the other 'maids to chip in. Most bridesmaids can expect to spend $50 to $100.
How to save: If you'll be expected to contribute, get involved with the shower-planning process so you can have a say in the overall budget.
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The bachelorette party.
Who pays: The bridesmaids, though the bride might cover some of her own costs (like her flight or a portion of the hotel) if it's a destination bachelorette bash.
How much: It depends on the sort of affair you're putting on, but costs can include everything from your own food and drinks to staying in a rental home or hotel for a weekend (if your friend is particularly fancy). Be prepared to spend at least $60 for this party.
How to save: Read our tips for bachelorette party budgeting to try to keep costs down. If you simply can't afford it, it's totally okay not to attend. Just be upfront and honest with the bride-to-be!
Who pays: The bride.
How much: The cost of these florals will vary based on the wedding's location, the season, and the flowers chosen. Couples often spend more than $100 per bridesmaid's bouquet.
How to save: Crafty brides can attempt DIYing their wedding flowers, or for a less hands-on option, they may consider something simple, like baby's breath bouquets, to help keep costs down.
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Hair and makeup.
Who pays: It depends; sometimes the bride covers everything, but in other cases, the responsibility falls on the bridesmaids. If you're worried about it, bring it up with the bride when she asks you to be a 'maid.
How much: The costs will vary depending on where the wedding is taking place (hair stylists and makeup artists in big cities are more expensive than those in small towns), how complex the 'dos are, and how fancy the wedding is. Expect $50+ per person for each service.
How to save: It can be hard to get out of having your hair and makeup professionally done if that's what the bride wants (and if all the other bridesmaids are participating), so we recommend talking to the bride about this before you've committed to being in the wedding to avoid tension later on.
Travel to the wedding location.
Who pays: The bridesmaids.
How much: Depending on whether you're driving or flying, it could be anywhere from $50 for gas to $700 for flights, rental cars, or taxis for an international destination wedding.
How to save: Start looking at flight costs at least four months in advance and keep an eye out for seat sales. Also, consider splitting a rental car with several people.
Accommodations for the wedding weekend.
Who pays: It depends. In most cases, bridesmaids are responsible for their lodging the night before and the night of the wedding. But if the bride wants all her gals to stay together the night before (sans dates), she should cover the cost.
How much: $100-$200 per night, depending on where you're staying.
How to save: Check home rental sites like Airbnb to find more affordable accommodations. You can also share a room or rental home with other bridesmaids and invited guests to save cash.
Transportation on the day-of.
Who pays: The bride.
How much: Depending on the style of wedding, the marrying couple may choose to rent a school bus, a vintage ride, a big ol' pick-up truck, or a fleet of town cars. Costs will vary widely.
How to save: The transportation doesn't have to be fancy! A rented SUV (with that family member who keeps offering to help with the wedding behind the wheel) can get everyone where they need to be for much less than a limo.
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Who pays: The bridesmaids.
How much: Wedding gifts are available at every price point, with most guests spending $30-$109 on the wedding present. But your gift budget may increase rapidly if you're purchasing something for the engagement party, bridal shower, bachelorette party, AND the wedding.
How to save: Consider going in on a big wedding gift with the other bridesmaids and stick to smaller (those baking sheets and spatulas the bride-to-be wants) or DIY items (like a scrapbook or photo album) for the other events. And if you simply can't afford a gift for the other events, just bring a nice, handwritten card.