To Post or Not to Post? 6 Tips for Sharing Your Wedding on Social or Keeping It Private

These days, you have to decide whether or not you want guests to publish photographs and videos of your celebration on platforms such as Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter. If you don’t communicate a preference, you’re picking yes; images will circulate, and maybe even before your first kiss. Here are our recommendations, along with fun—and polite!—ways to make your desires known.

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How to Share Your Day

Invite guests to post pics on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter, and you’ll get fast access to great shots you might otherwise never see. The downside? You can’t edit them. Here’s how to let guests know how to participate:


Create a Wedding Hashtag

Go classic and use your names, or get creative with a phrase that fits your day, like #2countries1love, and print the tag on everything from save-the-dates and drink napkins to custom confetti in the favor bags. Post-wedding, use Iconosquare to view all the images on “contact sheets.”


Pass Out the Pics

Hire a company, such as Instaprint or Vividsnaps, to bring printers to your party. They’ll print all hashtagged photos on the spot for attendees to take home.


Get Appy 

Photo-sharing apps like WedPics, Eversnap, or Appy Couple create a private, invitation-only virtual album for guests’ photos. When making your decision, consider what device most snappers will be using—iPhone, Android, or even tablet—and make sure the app is compatible.

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How to Keep It Unplugged 

If you’d rather keep your wedding offline and intimate, you’ve got to state your preference loud and clear. We like these tasteful tactics:


Put It in Print 

On your wedding website, make the request for no social-media sharing. At your vows, put it in the program, or have cards on each seat saying something like, “Let’s keep today between us; please don’t post photos.”


Use Word of Mouth

Even if you’ve written out your request, people may miss (or forget) the message; ask your attendants or planner to spread the word, too.


Then, Let It Go

Unless you confiscate phones (which we don’t recommend), a photo or two may find its way online. If it does, take a deep breath and keep smiling.

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