How Should a Couple Walk Down the Aisle at a Same-Sex Wedding Ceremony?

A celebration with two brides or two grooms might call for a change to the traditional processional routine. As we shared with Daniel, who reached out to us for etiquette advice on how to plan his nuptials, these days there are many options for personalizing your way to exchanging your I do’s. 

Photography by: Jenelle Kappe

Q: My fiancé and I are having a same-sex ceremony and are having trouble deciding on the processional order since there’s no bride. Thoughts?


A: Couples of every orientation are bending the rules to customize their ceremonies so feel free to take a route less traveled to the altar. You can ask a person of mutual importance to escort the two of you on each arm. Or walk one behind the other with your respective parents, though you’ll still have to figure out who goes first (rock-paper-scissors?). If neither one of you is being “given away,” proceed hand-in-hand. Or consider an alternate floor plan—dual aisles. Dividing the seating into three sections, separated by two aisles, allows you each a path to the altar. Just keep in mind: Separate, simultaneous routes require a second photographer.