In this day of in-dash GPS units and online map services you can embed in your wedding website, a paper map for a single location may seem unnecessary and wasteful. (If you decide not to enclose a map, do include the street address on the invitation.) But when you want to tell your guests about the neighborhood (great restaurants for lunch, the best place to park, sites that are of a particular interest to you), an edited map can be a charming addition.
Several online map services will help you make one. If you want a more organic, creative touch, add artistic touches by tracing over a printout of your map, see if your calligrapher can create a map for you, or search for a graphic artist on etsy.com.
Locating a hotel (or two) that's convenient and affordable for your out-of-town guests is a common courtesy; you can pass this along using an insert card. You needn't include all the features; just give the basic room rate, plus contact information.
Providing specific travel information to the city itself is generally not necessary. Airline information and road atlases will help people figure out their own travel plans.
If you want to avoid this enclosure all together, you can include all this information on your website. A grandparent who is not online can get theirs from you directly.
If you've planned extra events for all the guests -- a welcome dinner, rehearsal dinner, a round of golf on Saturday morning, a post-wedding brunch just to name a few -- it's a good idea to put this information into the invitation as well. This information can also go on the wedding website, but that that's not a substitute for a direct invitation.
However, if not everyone is invited to everything, use separate invites. Including those events in the invitation may lead your guests to think that everyone is invited, creating awkward situations when a conversation reveals that someone was left out.
The slips of tissue paper that find their way into invitations originated when all invitations were properly engraved (the ink can smudge, and the tissue paper keeps things neat). People who chose other printing methods included the tissue paper to camouflage their choice. If your invitation isn't engraved, leave these out.
Even if your store provides them, do not include little cards that contain information about your registry. And don't add the registry information to your invitation itself in any other way. It's impolite for you to start the conversation about gifts. Even if some guests find it convenient, others will think it seems greedy. Ask family and friend to spread the news when people ask; you can also put this information one level down on a wedding website, and mention it to anyone who asks you directly.
Since a change in marital status is often accompanied by a change of address, and sometimes a change of name, this small card is a way to let people know how to contact you -- and how to address you -- after the wedding. The title usually reads: "At Home," and was followed by the date you would return from your honeymoon, or your wedding date itself: "After May 22, 2010." Nowadays, you can include your cell phone, e-mail address, and website, if you wish to share them.
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