Before the Wedding
Soon after the engagement is announced, it's the mother of the groom's place to make the congratulatory telephone call to the bride's parents, according to etiquette. She might also suggest a time for both sets of parents to meet in person, if they haven't done so already. The major task for the groom's parents is to host the rehearsal dinner, though they should confer with the bride and groom as well as her parents. The dinner takes place following the ceremony rehearsal on the night before the wedding and generally includes the immediate family members, the officiant and his or her spouse, and the wedding party and their dates. Out-of town guests may be invited as well. The groom's mother may offer to help plan some details of the wedding, especially if she and the bride are close or if it's more geographically convenient for her than for the bride's mom. The groom's parents also need to compile their portion of the guest list.
On the Wedding Day
The groom's parents sit to the right of the aisle in the front row or, in a Jewish ceremony, escort their son down the aisle and stand under the huppa. At the reception, they can stand after the bride's parents on the receiving line, though it's not customary. They usually sit at a table with the bride's parents -- the groom's mother to the right of the bride's father -- but you might consider making other arrangements if they are divorced. Sometime after the first dance, the mother of the groom shares the spotlight with her son.
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